with Rejection Better.
It's been proven that one of the biggest causes of unhappiness occurs
when people take things personally that they shouldn't.
This can happen when a restaurant messes up your order, when a place
you really want to go to is closed on that particular day, or when a
woman rejects your attempt to start a conversation with her.
None of these things are personal attacks on you. So instead of letting
them affect your self-esteem, give yourself credit where credit is due.
If you approach a woman and she doesn't want to talk to you, give yourself
credit for trying.
You don't know what's going on in her life -- she could have a boyfriend,
or just be having a bad day. Either way, it's not you.
Pat yourself on the back, and move on.
Partner is Having an Affair....
I've discovered my partner has been unfaithful. The past few days
have been a horrendous mixture of rows, tears and recriminations. He
says he still loves me, and I still love him, but everyone I know tells
me to just walk away. Is there any hope for us? Sound Familiar? Read
Infidelity doesn't have to spell the end for a relationship. Yes, some
partners have affairs because they want out of the relationship, but
for most people, an affair is a wake-up call. It's a signal that they're
not happy, but if the relationship changed they would stay. In some
cases, a relationship is strengthened by an affair as both partners
have had to face and work through the problems in their relationship.
Affair action plan
that your partner has had an affair will shock. Don't make any hasty
decisions about your future, however much other people pressure you
to do so.
partner needs to agree to stop seeing his (or her) lover - if they
refuse, walk away.
you're over the shock and can talk calmly with your partner, try and
talk through the reasons for the infidelity.
about the question: what needs to change in your relationship for
infidelity never to happen again?
counselling can provide a neutral and supportive environment to talk
these difficult issues through.
For More Information : How
To Survive Infidelity
Whether it's you or your partner who's gotten a little green-eyed,
jealousy is a common battle that -- surprise! -- you can actually win
together, with some TLC and trust. (from iVilliage.com)
for lots more information on Jealousy.
How Jealous Are You? Take
A Quiz from RedBook.
Talking to your partner is the first step in solving almost every
relationship problem. Easier said than done, right? Discover how to
open up the lines of communication. (from iVilliage.com)
for lots more information on Communication.
Communication Test from Dr. Phil.
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